Teach What You Preach

When a pastor asks for an amen from the crowd, is it usually to make sure he/she knows what they're saying is true or for the crowd to prove something to the rest of the crowd? When a pastor wears jewelry and shoes that are more flashy or expensive than multiple members' outfits combined, is that to preach the prosperity gospel or just to show who is mightier and holier than thou? 

When a pastor's family walks past or looks away from a child that is abused or neglected, are those shut o or diverted eyes shut for prayer time or just for a chance to forget and move on? When a pastor prides in his past life of sin, is he/she joking or does he sometimes miss the sin a lot or is he bragging that his holy change/repentance is a bigger success story than that of those in the pews?

Thankfully, my main pastor does not do any of these but I have seen and heard of many other pastors who do. These questions and concerns I keep hearing about Church Hurt are too often mismanaged or neglected. The time to address them is absolutely NOW. What can be done now?

One of the Weirdest, Bluntest, Most Feminist Ted Talks I Ever Watched

       This middle-aged white American lady was a researcher who interviewed young women (ages 18 to about 25) around a part of Europe and a part of the U.S. about the stigmas, experiences and attitudes towards sex that they had learned/observed/lived through as kids/teens, and then as young adults. She emphasized throughout her video that pleasing their boyfriends was of greater or equal priority to being pleased themselves, for the hetero ladies. At the mildly short video's end, she said that when asked when they felt they first lost their virginity or something they would call their virginity/naivety, and how they would describe it, some lesbian women claimed it was once they first climaxed and some heterosexuals claimed it was once they had vaginal, not oral or other forms, of sex. She asked some of the heterosexuals when they first climaxed from sex, and some claimed they never had. 

        We can further discuss this "cumming gap" or disparity between men and women in the comments or at another time. It is significant. I would want to argue that it is significant especially after marriage, but  of course, what about before? Doesn't practice make perfect?

       Anyway... What do we define as virginity or as a physical marker of it for men? And what can count as its loss for men and women?

       Maybe remarrying after a divorce makes you regain your marital virginity and lose it again. Maybe getting out of retail and getting a real job is me losing my career virginity. Maybe we should stop using the term slightly out of turn all the time like adolescent wacky kids. Or maybe we should use it so much that the word has no definition. Until the word falls to a somewhat speedy but somewhat slow and excruciatingly painful death. 

       Maybe there is no age to being a virgin. If we are all striving to be pure or have great wisdom, we are all reaching to be closer to God. And if we are all His children, we are all reaching towards a nature and peace that is infinite. We are all infinitely virgins and infinitely ex-virgins. Maybe a 5 year old who doesn't yet understand division but knows how to tell time and a 95 year old who doesn't yet know the names and stories of all great world leaders from the start of global history but can tell the difference between a political fool and a real leader are equally virgins. Married or not. And equally ex-virgins. Maybe, without an exact age to the exact moment of one's virginity loss, we can all live without feeling too old or too young for what we have or have not experienced. Either way, does Jesus want us to live in the past or future or to live a life in shame? No.

       Now does renewing sexual virginity or letting go of a dangerous spouse or partner or striving for peace while fucking as a single Christian thot make me better than someone who is not at all a virgin? And less good then being a lifelong or single-status-long virgin?

       How many ducks do we have to give before God gives up on us and doesn't want to f*ck with us any longer? When do we lose our child of God card? If cumming makes me experienced, is simply cumming from using a dildo once in my life making me hell-worthy as much as a girl my age who sucks or f*cks every night before marriage? 

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Fans VS. Supporters

Sometimes, you gotta be your first and only fan.

But eventually, you're not all you've got. There are friends, family, and even strangers who are angels to you and who can help you along the way. The more you build off of that and give back, the better off you'll be. They may not make you feel like your ideal type of "popular", but they will aid you when you are confused, falling, or when you are soaring.

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No Justice, No Peace

How many more of us will sacrifice their time or their lives at such young and
vibrant ages? And how many of our men?

Not that all of them are willing to fight for us specifically, but how many more of them
must remain lost-confused or kidnapped and murdered before they can even fully learn,
fully grasp that they are a child of the real Living God?

How many black families will be dreamed of, never to exist? How many more black
children will never be born or even conceived, or  barely born and raised?

What do we stand for? For Whom do we stand? Who are we willing to allow to
impregnate our wombs?

Are all black Christian men leaving the church for months, years, and decades at a time
for good? Are black Christian men who are really the dedicated to Christ, going extinct? And
what are they- or who are they- choosing to lead them in Jesus's place?

Why is an orisha or Guru or Shaman or Google more steadfast and trustworthy than the
One who created the multiverse, hears our cries and is waiting for the appointed Vengeance
Time to deliver full justice?

The time for safety, peace and humanity is now. What are you willing to do today?

About Blu NAME

Being Blu is all about healing and staying down to earth. It's about cultivating great support and calmness and wisdom, even through learning from and giving back to a constructive blog.

What's in a NAME? This blog is Not About Me, Ever. It's focused on all people like me, and those who are not quite alike in experiences/identities at all. It comes from a black Christian American perspective because my art, writing, hurt and more are influenced by my identity. However, these expressions all are made to bring others closer to God. Black, white, red, purple, Chinese, Angolan, American, and Hindu, Jewish, Christian, etc. are all welcome to reflect, enjoy and collaborate with me as I hope to create a community inside of this web space! Many articles may be feminist or womanist but they are for women probably as much as they are for men and non-binaries, who can benefit from the alliance and awareness! 

Pat Yourself on the Back

Kudos to the ladies who gave up on settling for someone who made them smile while draining them from the inside out... someone who maybe didn't hurt them as often as they made them feel happy, but hurt them in ways that were absolutely unacceptable. Someone in their past that made them lose the good in their identity or feel numb or dry from their soul or spirit.

You don't need that compromise. We are often pushed or shoved into giving up ourselves and our livelihoods for a person who gives us a breath of fresh air or gives us life for just 5 minutes, here or there! It always only leads to hurt and regret!

Pat yourself on the back if you do your best to learn how to better protect yourself from the creepers and the hooligans and the motherfu**ers out there! It's a dog-eat-dog world, and we gotta stand up together, real 'bitch' or 'no bitch'-- but without calling each other any derogatory names!

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